Maligalig

"Ayaw pang matulog ng gabi sa kama kong walang silbi..." Hihikab hikab pero di makakuha nga tulog. Dont want to waste my Saturday night at home. Gusto ko masaya, may kwentuhan tapos kantahan. Kagaya ba nung una, nung umpisa. Kasi habang tumatagal, tumatahimik na... Parang nagiiba, wala ng gana. Mas gusto na lng magpahinga. Sana bukas na.... Para may bago na.

life.in.mono

Two days after I decided to look for this space I’ve been thinking and wanting for like 300 hours from now, I had this vision of what if this will be like forever or could this be really true. It’s been a very long time since I had my dinner alone (on a daily basis), I threw my things everywhere I want. As soon as I got home, I had this special bonding with my computer and most especially I spend more time on facebook, and I mean “more”.

Somehow, there are good things I realized now I have the chance again to live in mono. I can feel the sense of ownership of the space and everything that my eyes can reach within these four corners. I don’t have to worry about anything, anyone. It makes me feel like a lil mature enough to decide for myself, to take care of myself... cause nobody else will.

But it’s a bit sad. There’s no one you can share your laugh with or someone you can ask “anu daw?” in the middle of your movie marathon (cuz im a bit bingi, really.)

I miss living alone. But I miss living with him more than living alone.

No Other Woman

After watching the movie No Other Woman, I was really inspired to go deep into issue of infidelity, may it be for husbands and wives or simply between loving couples, married or not. The likelihood of commiting such wicked act does not only occur on long distance relationships, it can happen anywhere, anytime…

Since this is No Other Woman –inspired blog, let us take man as the unfaithful partner.

Let’s have “one night stand” as a case. The question is why do men do this? What are their reasons? Don’t they love their partners enough to do such? Are they being flirtatious or just being tempted to cheat or just want to get laid?

One of those familiar lines is “I was drunk. It was just a one night stand. I’m a guy and certainly there’re no strings attached. ” Is it reluctant to accept that? Is there an innocent explanation for this to happen?

These answers test patience of us girls and deep understanding of very lousy reasons.

But if I were in the situation, the answers that he can get from me are:
“I was drunk.” –iinom inom ka, di mo naman kaya sarili mo.
“it was just a one night stand” – just?!? It could be two, three, four…
“I’m a guy and certainly there’re no strings attached” –ya, just the penis and vagina volt in

Anyway, I’ve gathered point of views of random guys and gals taken from this question :
“Acceptable ba sa guy to get into one night stand (no strings attached)? Is it nuff reason that it was only about sex and they’re just “guys” ?

GIRLS SAID…

JOYCE : no.... hindi ako naniniwala sa one night stand.... not unless talagang hayok ang lalaki... kasi alam ko meron nabubuong lub after one night stand... at hindi naman lahat nasama becoz dahil lang sa tawag ng kung ano... minsan chance ang tawag... at hindi rason ang one night stand sa long distance relationship...bow

JHE : syempre dun ako sa hindi kung malaman ko un ako gf babooshka na kasi he cant be loyal makakuha pa ako sakit dun

ANALYNN: sa akin no...sabihin nang "old fashioned idea" pero infidelity pa rin un...kung babae ba gagawa nun matatanggap ng lalaki na may naging kahati/kasabayan sya? madali namang sabihing "no strings attached" e.. pero madalas dun nagsisismula un sa "wala lang".

JACQ: ako no. yun lang ba talaga ang solution sa ganung pangangailangan ng guy? di pa yun pwedeng i-divert sa ibang bagay? isa pa, kung sakaling baliktarin ang situation, papayag ba yung guy na gawin yun nung partner nya?

EIYA: HIndi acceptable ang khit anong form of inmmorality. Social and religious belief must reign. Sex is a tool in expressing love. Walang sex na walng emotions.

WIWA: hndi rison un!!!!!!

GEE ANN : Hell No! Di dahilan yung “lalake kc” palusot na justification yon dahil alam nilang we live in a double standard na society. Us girls shud NOT accept that as the “truth about boys” we all excrete the same hormones that makes us horny”

JACKIE : Big No. Why? Wen ur away lahat ng temptation nandyan nagkalat as in. That’s reality But if u give ur trust to that person and he promise. Dats another story.

GUYS SAID…

EMON : mali nman un..isipin nya nlang kung ung girlfriend nya ang gumawa non sa knya..syempre masasaktan sya

ARVINGREPO : No! Merong needs ang both parties. Ngayon, kung sabihin sa akin ng girl na, I'll have sex with this guy kasi I have my sexual needs and you're not here. That's not acceptable. Kissing, flirting ok lang yun. Sex is a different thing. :)

TRISTAN : I guess so, wag na lang paalam, basta wag habitual kasi yung nsa nya baka amging ka m-u na, haha, kc lets face it men need sex, even girls, pero dapat kanya lng ndi dpaat malamn

OLIVER : Nope. Mas ok pa angmagiwalay at magbalikan pagbalik nya kung ok pa sa knya.

ERWIN : hndi pwedeng sagutin ng yes or no lng yan pre...hahaha... pero dpende yan kung cno tatanungin mu... pag lalake natural "yes" ang sagot... pag babae cgurado "no" yan... pero kung ako tatanungin mu natural yes ang sagot ko!...hahahaha

JR: hmm well kung sa pagiging ethical, syempre sagot dun hindi.. hehe pero syempre depende sa lalaki un kung gano kalakas resistance nya sa temptation lalo na pag nandun ka sa sitwasyon na un.. based on my exp, syempre hipokrito naman ako kung sabihin ko na never mangyayari un.. hehe ewan ko ngaun siguro depende talaga. basta ang word ko lang dyan watever outcome, dapat ready ka sa consequences.. hehe

POY : xmpre..ndi kc commited ka sa gf mo..dpat xa lng..peo in reality mhrap tumanggi sa grasya..sv nga nla dba...panu qng c angel or marianne un..tatanggi kba..dba...hahaha...peo ndi tlga dahilan un...

RYAN : Alam mo pre depende sa lalaki yan...ciempre kung tayo tatanungin ayos lng magka one night stand pero ang tunay n mahal p rin ntin ung gf natin...ciempre naghahanap k ng makakasama...cguro parang panandalian lng n aliw un....pero kung talagang honest k sa asawa or gf mo hindi mo magagawa un...icipin mo n lng kung anu mararamdaman mo kung ginawa rin niya sayo un habang wala ka...mahirap kc magsalita hanggat di k p dumadating s ganung sitwasyon...

CHRISTIAN: Pwedeng oo pwedenmg hindi.. depende eh..

JOMAR : No, it is being unfaithful kawawa yung girl, and hindi reason yung long distance mas mabuti maghiwalay nalang sila kase hindi naman magtatagal kapag ganun yung lalaki.

BYN : No, kasi if ur rili love ur gf, if though u have special needs as a man, u should know the meaning of sacrifice and delayed gratification

EJ : Syempre hinde. Kubng hindi sya marunong magtiis at magjintay, itgil na lnag muna nila yung relationship

KARL : Naku, mahina ang reasoning powers ko sa mga ganyan

REXIE: Hmm.. For me, ok lng. Wag ko lang mallaman. Tsaka wag nya uulitin sa same girl. Weird answer ksi dpat di ko nga dapat malalman. Well pag nalaman ko naman, 1 tym lang dapat. At hindi na uulitin. 2nd tym. Break na. Yes, sabi gn guy friend ko, iba daw tlga ang needs nila

ANTHONY : Serious na tanong ba ito.. kahit nga hindi long distance relationship nangyayari yan eh. Di lalo na sa malayo… pero yung feelings kasi ang concern doon..ok lang kung for fun. Kasi malamang din a malaman nung girl kasi malayo.. pero pag pina alam pa naman ehIbang usapan na yun

Majority falls to NO as an answer. It is no surprise anymore since we live in a conservative and predominantly Christian country.

The morning after is a heavy morning ( I assume) an in-a-relationship guilty guy faces. According to AskMen.com guys fall into this kind of flirtatious event mostly due to too much alcohol, they didn’t have much self-control to resist tempatation especially sex. For others, it very much boost their ego and men seeks for thrill and fun without promising anything in return (lucky bastard) .The only thing that they would worry is the plan to escape, the guilt (if they have that), and the consequence if they get caught. (An a*hole must’ve answered this).

But let’s just say worst comes to worst, this happened and you knew. What are you going to do? Of course at first, you will end up crying in pain and anger. And the first question that pops out your mind is should you forgive him for what he did? Well the answer depends on you, on how much you love the person and how you can handle things and emotions maturely. It is difficult to discuss this topic between couples out in the open. It brings out heartache and anxiety of course. (especially if you were answered with 3 famous gasgas lines mentioned earlier)

If you are still considering on giving your relationship another chance, on my humblest opinion, it is better to let it all out first to your “trusted” friend and alleviate all your emotions. When you’re so much troubled, expressing it to your partner first may lead to anger and quarrel. After that, calmly talk to him. You have to accept the painful fact that he betrayed you, but doesn’t always imply that he no longer loves you. Yes, count the point that he did that out of sexual desires in the absence of love. In such case, he may still loves you and he’s full of regrets from doing such act. It should not cause the end of your relationship even if you still love each other. Forgiveness is the word. Once he sincerely asked it from you, forgive him. BUT, Capital B-U-T, forgiveness should come with renewal of commitment to ensure that it will not happen again in the future. As they say, gaguhan na yun pag naulit pa! On this case, trust is also renewed even it may take some time considering the pain that he caused you.

Pseudo

Adj. Not real aka FAKE.

A true friend is very hard to find in our society nowadays.

You really can't tell if friendship is genuine or fake at all.
You just have to be wise. Some friends are really close to you but say something bad behind your back, may it be because of jealousy or what.
If you're getting all the attention, she'll surely try to drag you down because she's envious of what you have.

On a positive note, you should not waste your energy hating all such kind of people because obviously it's because of envy. Respect it. These are the people who think that you are much better that them. :D It's just hard for 'em to accept the fact.

I believe that some people are real and some may be good. But some may be fake. But all i know, SOME PEOPLE ARE REAL GOOD AT BEING FAKE. They are like penis.... TWO-FACED and WORTHLESS.

I never worry much about how many friends i have on my FB friends' list or tweepol following me on twitter, or should i say i really don't care how few/many kaibigans i got in real life. AS LONG AS THEY'RE TRUE, THAT'S MORE THAN ENOUGH.

:D

She's never wrong

She has thousand reasons to like him and millions of reasons not to.
Still trying to create these imaginary spaces in between. Pushing him away in like some kinda stupid way.

She was hesitant to open doors not even her windows. She said to herself, "i've been there, done that. this is nothing but shit. let's keep everything platonic." Their hearts are bleeding into each other. Should've no giving chances.

He was trying so hard to reach her hand, and as much as she want to stay away, it seems not so possible for someone who's also trying so hard to finally give him her keys.

But still hesitant, after all, she believes that history repeats itself.

It came to a day, that she thinks she's about to give in. Her heart skips a beat and she's falling.

By the time she's ready.... all she heard is nothing.
She's never wrong. It happened again.

Another story of a boy meets girl. Never a fairy tale.

:(

FUCK IT.

Uhmmm.. i would just like to tell something to someone real quick....

To you,

ME NO WANT TO BE DRAGGED TO YOUR FAME. FYI. Just in case you don't know, i never did enjoy the benefits of being close to someone like you. Me want a simple life with true friends and loved ones. I enjoyed those simple things we had, without you being the noted and prominent one.

It's just a motherfucking shit that ugggghhhh.. whatever! I'm wasting my time here.
I just said my piece.

Time to wrap it up, you ended it first.

saGuijo \m/

#NowPlaying Hangover -sugarfree

Hinkey for me to blog this excitement i'm having for saGuijo. So effin thrilled to come by with lil sis and friends next week! I'm a biggie freak of Sugarfree... actually a buff of Mr. Dancel <3 (i just can't imagine the feeling of being so close to him while he's doing his Burnout!!!) Hahaha! It's ehhl-ooh-vee-eeh!

On 24th, they'll be performing with other Pinoy rockbands. (oh gosh, im a bit numpty of other bands' songs... who is pedicab? periodiko?!? wtf!) Good thing, my sis is a trueblooded rockista, hindi naman siguro ako magmumukang bonehead pag kumanta na ang iba! Lol.

Basta.. I just can't wait. Parang mas excited pa ako mag saGuijo kesa mag CGY/Camiguin/Bukidnon!!! Hihihi. (I miss my bestfriends tho!)