After watching the movie No Other Woman, I was really inspired to go deep into issue of infidelity, may it be for husbands and wives or simply between loving couples, married or not. The likelihood of commiting such wicked act does not only occur on long distance relationships, it can happen anywhere, anytime…
Since this is No Other Woman –inspired blog, let us take man as the unfaithful partner.
Let’s have “one night stand” as a case. The question is why do men do this? What are their reasons? Don’t they love their partners enough to do such? Are they being flirtatious or just being tempted to cheat or just want to get laid?
One of those familiar lines is “I was drunk. It was just a one night stand. I’m a guy and certainly there’re no strings attached. ” Is it reluctant to accept that? Is there an innocent explanation for this to happen?
These answers test patience of us girls and deep understanding of very lousy reasons.
But if I were in the situation, the answers that he can get from me are:
“I was drunk.” –iinom inom ka, di mo naman kaya sarili mo.
“it was just a one night stand” – just?!? It could be two, three, four…
“I’m a guy and certainly there’re no strings attached” –ya, just the penis and vagina volt in
Anyway, I’ve gathered point of views of random guys and gals taken from this question :
“Acceptable ba sa guy to get into one night stand (no strings attached)? Is it nuff reason that it was only about sex and they’re just “guys” ?
GIRLS SAID…
JOYCE : no.... hindi ako naniniwala sa one night stand.... not unless talagang hayok ang lalaki... kasi alam ko meron nabubuong lub after one night stand... at hindi naman lahat nasama becoz dahil lang sa tawag ng kung ano... minsan chance ang tawag... at hindi rason ang one night stand sa long distance relationship...bow
JHE : syempre dun ako sa hindi kung malaman ko un ako gf babooshka na kasi he cant be loyal makakuha pa ako sakit dun
ANALYNN: sa akin no...sabihin nang "old fashioned idea" pero infidelity pa rin un...kung babae ba gagawa nun matatanggap ng lalaki na may naging kahati/kasabayan sya? madali namang sabihing "no strings attached" e.. pero madalas dun nagsisismula un sa "wala lang".
JACQ: ako no. yun lang ba talaga ang solution sa ganung pangangailangan ng guy? di pa yun pwedeng i-divert sa ibang bagay? isa pa, kung sakaling baliktarin ang situation, papayag ba yung guy na gawin yun nung partner nya?
EIYA: HIndi acceptable ang khit anong form of inmmorality. Social and religious belief must reign. Sex is a tool in expressing love. Walang sex na walng emotions.
WIWA: hndi rison un!!!!!!
GEE ANN : Hell No! Di dahilan yung “lalake kc” palusot na justification yon dahil alam nilang we live in a double standard na society. Us girls shud NOT accept that as the “truth about boys” we all excrete the same hormones that makes us horny”
JACKIE : Big No. Why? Wen ur away lahat ng temptation nandyan nagkalat as in. That’s reality But if u give ur trust to that person and he promise. Dats another story.
GUYS SAID…
EMON : mali nman un..isipin nya nlang kung ung girlfriend nya ang gumawa non sa knya..syempre masasaktan sya
ARVINGREPO : No! Merong needs ang both parties. Ngayon, kung sabihin sa akin ng girl na, I'll have sex with this guy kasi I have my sexual needs and you're not here. That's not acceptable. Kissing, flirting ok lang yun. Sex is a different thing. :)
TRISTAN : I guess so, wag na lang paalam, basta wag habitual kasi yung nsa nya baka amging ka m-u na, haha, kc lets face it men need sex, even girls, pero dapat kanya lng ndi dpaat malamn
OLIVER : Nope. Mas ok pa angmagiwalay at magbalikan pagbalik nya kung ok pa sa knya.
ERWIN : hndi pwedeng sagutin ng yes or no lng yan pre...hahaha... pero dpende yan kung cno tatanungin mu... pag lalake natural "yes" ang sagot... pag babae cgurado "no" yan... pero kung ako tatanungin mu natural yes ang sagot ko!...hahahaha
JR: hmm well kung sa pagiging ethical, syempre sagot dun hindi.. hehe pero syempre depende sa lalaki un kung gano kalakas resistance nya sa temptation lalo na pag nandun ka sa sitwasyon na un.. based on my exp, syempre hipokrito naman ako kung sabihin ko na never mangyayari un.. hehe ewan ko ngaun siguro depende talaga. basta ang word ko lang dyan watever outcome, dapat ready ka sa consequences.. hehe
POY : xmpre..ndi kc commited ka sa gf mo..dpat xa lng..peo in reality mhrap tumanggi sa grasya..sv nga nla dba...panu qng c angel or marianne un..tatanggi kba..dba...hahaha...peo ndi tlga dahilan un...
RYAN : Alam mo pre depende sa lalaki yan...ciempre kung tayo tatanungin ayos lng magka one night stand pero ang tunay n mahal p rin ntin ung gf natin...ciempre naghahanap k ng makakasama...cguro parang panandalian lng n aliw un....pero kung talagang honest k sa asawa or gf mo hindi mo magagawa un...icipin mo n lng kung anu mararamdaman mo kung ginawa rin niya sayo un habang wala ka...mahirap kc magsalita hanggat di k p dumadating s ganung sitwasyon...
CHRISTIAN: Pwedeng oo pwedenmg hindi.. depende eh..
JOMAR : No, it is being unfaithful kawawa yung girl, and hindi reason yung long distance mas mabuti maghiwalay nalang sila kase hindi naman magtatagal kapag ganun yung lalaki.
BYN : No, kasi if ur rili love ur gf, if though u have special needs as a man, u should know the meaning of sacrifice and delayed gratification
EJ : Syempre hinde. Kubng hindi sya marunong magtiis at magjintay, itgil na lnag muna nila yung relationship
KARL : Naku, mahina ang reasoning powers ko sa mga ganyan
REXIE: Hmm.. For me, ok lng. Wag ko lang mallaman. Tsaka wag nya uulitin sa same girl. Weird answer ksi dpat di ko nga dapat malalman. Well pag nalaman ko naman, 1 tym lang dapat. At hindi na uulitin. 2nd tym. Break na. Yes, sabi gn guy friend ko, iba daw tlga ang needs nila
ANTHONY : Serious na tanong ba ito.. kahit nga hindi long distance relationship nangyayari yan eh. Di lalo na sa malayo… pero yung feelings kasi ang concern doon..ok lang kung for fun. Kasi malamang din a malaman nung girl kasi malayo.. pero pag pina alam pa naman ehIbang usapan na yun
Majority falls to NO as an answer. It is no surprise anymore since we live in a conservative and predominantly Christian country.
The morning after is a heavy morning ( I assume) an in-a-relationship guilty guy faces. According to AskMen.com guys fall into this kind of flirtatious event mostly due to too much alcohol, they didn’t have much self-control to resist tempatation especially sex. For others, it very much boost their ego and men seeks for thrill and fun without promising anything in return (lucky bastard) .The only thing that they would worry is the plan to escape, the guilt (if they have that), and the consequence if they get caught. (An a*hole must’ve answered this).
But let’s just say worst comes to worst, this happened and you knew. What are you going to do? Of course at first, you will end up crying in pain and anger. And the first question that pops out your mind is should you forgive him for what he did? Well the answer depends on you, on how much you love the person and how you can handle things and emotions maturely. It is difficult to discuss this topic between couples out in the open. It brings out heartache and anxiety of course. (especially if you were answered with 3 famous gasgas lines mentioned earlier)
If you are still considering on giving your relationship another chance, on my humblest opinion, it is better to let it all out first to your “trusted” friend and alleviate all your emotions. When you’re so much troubled, expressing it to your partner first may lead to anger and quarrel. After that, calmly talk to him. You have to accept the painful fact that he betrayed you, but doesn’t always imply that he no longer loves you. Yes, count the point that he did that out of sexual desires in the absence of love. In such case, he may still loves you and he’s full of regrets from doing such act. It should not cause the end of your relationship even if you still love each other. Forgiveness is the word. Once he sincerely asked it from you, forgive him. BUT, Capital B-U-T, forgiveness should come with renewal of commitment to ensure that it will not happen again in the future. As they say, gaguhan na yun pag naulit pa! On this case, trust is also renewed even it may take some time considering the pain that he caused you.
